If there´s anything that sparks controversy in the trans man community here, it´s going on hormones by yourself. In many aspects, I feel like it´s the elephant in the room. Don´t talk about it and everything will be fine. Talk about it, and risk a heated debate about fairness and the question whether or not it is moral to transition by yourself when so many people are dealing with the regular system.
Emotions run high when talking about this and I´m no exception. I´ll come right out and say that in my opinion, desperate times call for desperate measures. If an individual is on the verge mentally, and has tried everything else (including the regular process) to their detriment and disadvantage, then it seems only rational to consider the unofficial options. I´m not saying that you should just jump right in.
I´m saying that with enough knowledge about hormone levels and checkups, a good amount of sensible thinking, and professional guidance, it can be done fairly safely. There are plenty of countries, after all, who operate on the basis of Informed Consent. You walk in, have a chat or two with the therapist, go to the endocrinologist. Very little supervision. You can wonder about that. But transition is not a one-size-fits all process.
The fact that there are so many different approaches to transition worldwide, testifies to this fact. In some places, you might not need psychological evaluation. In some places, they want you to have talks for six months, and in some places, they want you to wait for years. My point is that if someone decides to transition in a way that suits their individual situation, they are not committing an unforgivable moral calamity.
The next argument is that transitioning by yourself demonstrates ego-centrism, impatience, and a secret desire to be a special snowflake, to whom all the rules don´t apply. Everyone (such is the argument) in this country should to go through the regular system, which means that sometimes you wait for years and sometimes you go through crushing depression and dysphoria.
But everyone goes through that. That´s just how it is. The conclusion seems to be that you should just “deal with it”. In my opinion,”just deal with it” isn´t very brotherly. It lacks empathy and understanding of the situation this other person is in. These are people who have (hopefully) tried the regular process and were worse off instead of better. They need guidance and support, not moral condemnation.