The opinions we inherit from parents, the environment that we grew up in, the internet (new to those of us who witnessed modem evolution) influence how we see the world. The fact that I was not even familiar with the existence of transgender men until 2015, attests to this fact.
Considering that I got all my information about trans women from television (sitcoms in particular), and they were mostly represented as weird outcasts, it´s hardly surprising that I never made any attempts to go beyond this empty representation, and do some research of my own. I just enjoyed the show, and forgot about it.
This hardly applies to transgender issues alone. We are bombarded on a daily basis with information, and fed the most eccentric and glamorous pieces of news, so we´ll consume some more. The more far-fetched and fantastic, the more glamorous and alternative, the better. This is great, because it provides recognition in society.
The downside of so much glitter and glamour is that your average, super-boring stories of gender nonconforming, asexual, bisexual, and whatever-sexual people, are never being heard. It is still a big deal to come out of the closet, and when you do, you find yourself wondering if people will view you in a different light.
I for one prefer not to associate myself much with labels. Not queer, not gay, not straight, not completely asexual, not completely mono-amorous, not into this or that scene. Not staying at the YMCA and also not drifting along the canals of Amsterdam during Pride Parade. I don´t feel a need to do any of those things.
Do you want to associate with labels because they make you feel more at home, because they describe you, or help you get recognition? Do you prefer to carry a handbag, or mascara? No problem! The point is the diversity, not just televised and advertised diversity, but the one that is expressed by all of us, regular people.